The Great Pretender...

The Great Pretender...

How long can you pretend to be someone you are not?...At some point I'm pretty sure we do or we have to pretend. Just to please your parents, your friends, your boss or even your partner. But how long can you possibly do it unless you love to do so, enjoy to be...a pretender.

"It's about who you are." I heard that a couple time before...

In the past, I've never thought if I've ever had to pretend to be someone I wasn't. Especially in relationship, someone told me no matter how long you tried, some day you would be sick of loosing your true identity and couldn't help but going back to your old "you", your routine and your habit. I truly agree. I am a grown up now and I'm sick and tired of playing game. If I don't like anything, I will definitely make sure that you will know. I've never faked my expression, which it's so obvious that someone had to warn me "You wear your heart on sleeve! Which isn't good!". So what? You want me to smile and say "No, I'm fine. I am!" but then walk away later leaving you without a clue what you've done wrong?

If you have to try so hard to be someone else you are not, if you have to try that hard to be loved then don't. That person won't worth it. You have to be yourself to be loved. You will have to be able to show your true self to your partner. If they don't like who you are, then walk away. What's the point to be in relationship where you can't even be "You"?

You will find lots my flaw but being pretender, I am definitely not... Love me or leave me...as easy as that...

Love me for who I am, not for who you want me to be or for who you think I should be...

Live & Love,


Yosita Anita V.

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