"Anita" for Dummies #5

#5 Don't you dare!!

It's good to have a few people whom you can call 'your best friend', even if it might includes your exs. I don't mind if my boyfriend has a few female friends or still in a good term with his exs but I don't really care how good his exs or his female friends are, I don't want to hear any damn thing about it at all as it's like a big slap on our face and our ego (oh yeah, we do have EGO too). Honestly, nobody like to be compared especially with their partner's exs.

Confused isn't it? You can have a female friends but cannot talk about them. Oh well, let's me explain here.

Will you, guys, like to hear we, girls, say something nice about our exs such as; "He bought this for me. It's pretty, isn't it?", "He always did (this) and (that) for me.", "He can do this and that.", "Oh, this reminds me of him.", "Oh we really had a good time.", "He's really such a good guy."...blah...blah...blah... so and so. No matter how good your relationship is with your exs or your female friends, it is like a piece of stick which stab into our heart every time you mention their name. Non of the girls will love to hear their partner keep talking about another girl in the admirable way which probably be the same that you won't like to hear your girlfriend keeps popping up about her past.

Yes, it is kind of paranoid and jealousy, I have to admit. It took me a while to try getting used to it but still, it's still itchy. But it can be avoided if you think your relationship is worth to keep. If you don't want to cause any drama, no name needs to be mentioned. You can say "My friend just do (this) and (that)." so and so... And so important trying to observe your girlfriend mood, it's extremely cautious when she's in the red zone...of course...

To me, it's not like you are keeping secret but I'll see as it's something which better left unsaid.

Love & Live

Yosita Anita V.

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