"Anita" for Dummies #3

#3 No or Yes?

I don't know why, we, women has to make it hard for men to understand what we want. "He should know how I feel!", "He should know that I don't like it!", "I told him before so he should remember it!", "He should know....!", sadly dear but he doesn't exactly know until you tell him, verbal not gesture.

You, guys, probably have heard it before, like so many times already, that when women say "No, I'm ok." she really means "Hell no...I am NOT ok!". But is it always like that? You have to learn and notice after she says "I'm ok.", what's her reaction. If she's silent? If she's avoiding eyes contact? If she's suddenly moody? That's just some sample signs to worn you that she's so furious inside and ignorance isn't an option. You'd better find out quick before she makes you suffer, again.

Every women is the same? It depends...I prefer to tell my partner straight what I don't like rather than let him keeps guessing without a clue what he's done wrong, or in any other case some men won't even bother to guess at all, and then I'll get frustrated more and more assuming that he 'Supposes' to know! So when I said "No, I am ok." I did mean I am ok. Because I can't let him guess anyhow when I am burning inside since my face can't lie , unfortunately.

Play a guessing game just make it more complicated for men and you, women, will be so frustrated and upset any how so why don't make it easy and you both are happy, it's a win-win situation. Just try to tell him if you don't like anything and if you are NOT ok with anything. But if you love guessing game, have fun...

...To Be Continue...

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