"Out of sight, out of mind"

"Out of sight, out of mind" that sentence can apply to 2 matters. First I've never had you in my mind anyway as you are just a better option at the moment. Second, I fall out of love.

Today topic, "Long distant relationship" would it ever work? I used to deal with a couple relationships which involved long distant communication and required a lots of trust. In the end, it's failed. I admit it's pretty drained all my energy just to maintain a healthy relationship when the other person was like a thousand mile away from you. Time zone, phone line, misunderstanding, trust, etc. was caused me so much of a headache. Did love alone help? I don't think so. Even only 'love' couldn't save my relationship. But why it's so hard to keep long distant relationship work? As my sample; time zone, because of the timing that you have to wait to talk to the other end. When you get up, they go to bed or when you go to bed and they just get up. The timing isn't right as you have to wait when you're dying to tell them something or when you're dying to talk to them. Phone line or internet connection, that factor really plays an important role as so many time when you talked and the line was terrible that you got extremely frustrated and didn't feel like talking anymore and it would lead to "Misunderstanding". It happened to me so many time, again, with the sms. Because we had the alphabet limited that we had to keep it short and then we got the different result. I meant something, he thought about something else which immediately thrown me into a dog house because he didn't get what I tried to say. If I thought it was the end of message so I stopped texting, he would get mad and thought that I didn't wanna talk to him any more or in the other way around when he didn't answer me back then I got upset. Trust; when you are away from your partner, you'll get paranoid and illusion. You don't know what they've been doing, whom they meet and whom they go out with so that end up in a big fight and heartache.

As you can see here, it is so many factors to maintain a long distant relationship. Some might work but mine was completely failed in terms of communication and trust.

Now let's get back a little bit to the first paragraph, "Out of sight, out of mind". What did I mean by "I've never had you in my mind anyway as you are just a better option at the moment."? There was a time when I wasn't in a serious relationship, of course I had some choices and like any other human being, I don't like the feeling of being lonely. Even if there wasn't any guy I wanted to be serious with at least I just picked the decent one out just to keep me company, away from my horrible friend 'loneliness'. So the problem was I saw them as an option so I didn't give them much chance or opportunity to develop any kind of relationship that it could possibly be a good one. I wasn't fair to them, I admit. So the point is because they are an option so whether they are in sight or out of sight, they're never in our mind and that relationship is just an illusion which it's unfair to the other.

The 2nd matter, it's easy to understand that when you're away from each other, anything could happen. There's so many distraction, temptation, problems, etc. to destroy the relationship. And it's easy to fall out of love when there's loads of factor which I mentioned before involved. So to all those lovers out there, if you want your relationship to work out and if you think they're worth it a try then you have to find the way to keep it alive.

Is it necessary that "Out of sight, out of mind"? No, I've also heard "Absence makes the heart grow fonder.", the optimistic point of view. Nevertheless, I'd wish you all a healthy relationship.

Live & Love

Yosita Anita V.